A few months ago, I told you about when my friend Carol's husband, Paul, died. It was so unexpected, such a shock that we were all stunned. What do you do? Flowers seemed so little and we all stood by, helpless to help Carol. In a fit of being...well...me, I ordered a huge gourmet cheesecake and had it delivered with a note that read "F*** flowers, you need cheesecake!" Carol's daughter called to tell me it was the first smile she'd seen on her mom's face in 24 hours.
That's become a tradition in our circle of friends and, unfortunately, now it's my turn. My wonderful grandmother, who defies all description because there is nothing I could possibly write to express how much I loved, admired, and cherished this woman, passed away at Christmas. I'm not even going to try to eulogize her. As cliched as this is, it truly was like taking away a piece of my heart, the piece that can talk about her.
Generously, and completely unexpectedly, I received a box a couple of days later from my friend Cindy in Rhode Island. What did it contain? She pulled the Carousel Cakes info from my blog and ordered--a cheesecake.
I'm smiling even as I write this. It was such a lovely thing to do because at times like these, f*** flowers, I needed cheesecake! Thank you Cindy. I am moved by your kindness and it did make me smile too.
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That was lovely and looks so good. You have good friends looking after you.
Posted by: courtney | January 22, 2009 at 07:55 AM
Awwwwww that's so sweet. Did you share any? Looks delicious...I think I might buy a cake this afternoon, haha.
Posted by: Colleen | January 22, 2009 at 01:28 PM
I'm so sorry for your loss Glenna. My Great Grandmother passed away 9 years ago and it still hurts like hell. She was an incredible woman and set the moon and stars in the sky for me. I pray that the pain of your loss lessens soon. You're in my prayers.
Posted by: kimberly | January 22, 2009 at 02:02 PM
The world's a better place with friends who understand "F*** flowers, you need cheesecake!"
Sorry to hear about your grandmother. Those pieces of our hearts are so important. Take care.
Posted by: MyKitchenInHalfCups | January 22, 2009 at 07:37 PM
Thanks Courtney. I agree.
Colleen--I did! We had it NYE and then my sister's kids got some too. I was down to one last thick slice and I froze it to split with Gene later on.
Kimberly--Thank you. Man, you nailed it! Sorry you know that from your own experience.
Tanna--Thanks. Yup. I agree. Our friends pull us through.
Posted by: Glenna Muse | January 23, 2009 at 05:58 AM
It's wonderful friends that keep the world a-moving. You're in my thoughts Glenna, and it puts a smile on my face to hear of such great friends.
Posted by: Albany Jane | January 23, 2009 at 09:22 AM
I wish you well Glenna, you are a wonderful friend, that is why they all love you! Cheesecakes are way better than flowers.
Posted by: Alisa@Foodista | January 24, 2009 at 09:29 AM
Thanks Jane! I agree!
Alisa--Thank you! It sure is!
Posted by: Glenna Muse | January 24, 2009 at 02:20 PM
I'm sorry to hear about your grandmother.
Cheesecake is a lovely thought, though I am not sure it would last as long as some flowers. :-)
Posted by: Jenny | January 25, 2009 at 06:53 AM
I like the way you think too Glenna, I'd take cheesecake over flowers any day, especially one that has chocolate and caramel. Losing someone special is never easy nor completely healed, but thank god for friends and wonderful memories.
Posted by: Marla | January 27, 2009 at 04:17 PM
That's why they call it comfort food! My thoughts are with you Glenna, but even more important, your Grandmother will always be with you. What great friends you have!
Posted by: Deborah Dowd | January 28, 2009 at 08:07 PM
I so agree! Nothing makes me feel loved more than a good cheesecake.
Posted by: Stacey | January 29, 2009 at 08:08 AM
Wow cheesecake,i love it so much!I want to melt it in my mouth!
-Ava
Posted by: Jollibee Philippine | March 03, 2009 at 08:37 PM
Jenny--Thanks, yes but we enjoyed it more, LOL!
Marla--Amen!
Deborah--Absolutely! Comfort food.
Stacey--cheesecake is just one of those warm and fuzzy foods, I think.
Ava--LOL! Me too!
Posted by: Glenna | March 05, 2009 at 10:21 AM
You are lucky to have a friend like her.I like the cheese cake that she gave to you.Wishing that some of my friends give me some cheesecake too.lol
-Ashley
Posted by: Gift Philippines | April 02, 2009 at 09:45 PM
Ashley--I agree!
Posted by: Glenna | April 03, 2009 at 11:06 AM
Hey, this post is refreshing. having a sweet friend like her is one of the best gift for me. the cheesecake looks so yummy. keep it up!
-altheya-
Posted by: gift philippines | May 21, 2009 at 03:06 AM
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Posted by: Term Paper | January 14, 2010 at 12:24 AM